“Money alone can buy you happiness, but not much”
Happiness is something that we all strive for, yet many of us find it challenging to grasp and even harder to maintain. Especially during these difficult economic times, happiness can feel like it is hiding just behind next week’s paycheck, a new job, or a distant. It appears that happiness has less to do with money than we might imagine, and more to do with the people around us, how we live our lives, the way spend our time, and how we perceive ourselves and understand our life experiences.
1) I practice gratitude
No matter where I am or what I’m doing, I always recognize that I always have something to be grateful for. Happy people can easily find gratitude in the world around them, whether they are looking at the cracks in the pavement in the concrete jungle or the sun setting over the ocean. It is not impossible to find gratitude even in smallest of things, like a delicious meal, a good book, a challenging lesson in the class, or a smile from a stranger which they cross on the street.
2) I find a place of flow
When we are in flow, such as when we are running a race, writing a song, or reading a great book, our self-awareness dissipates, time seems to stop, and we become focused, peaceful, and attentive to the task at hand. One example of finding a place of flow is by pausing for a moment and closing your eyes which I always do. People who frequently experience flow tend to be happy, productive, creative and focused. I always create a journal for all the stuffs I need to do.
3) I smile more
If you are feeling down or having a rough day, it is possible to cheer yourself up by simply thinking of a person, place or situation that makes you smile! So bust out the comedies and get your giggle on (or maybe let someone tickle you a little bit)! Smile and hide all the problems that you’re feeling inside coz that’s what I do. Smile and then be shock when somebody else is falling for you hihihih
4) I’m embracing my mistakes
I don’t blame anyone for the mistake I have done, instead I jut smile and would say “It’s another lesson learned”
We are all perfectly imperfect in this human form, and it is only natural that we make mistakes (sometimes very often!) Living in denial about your mistakes or getting wrapped up in your ego will only you make you miserable and block you from learning valuable lessons that will help you grow and improve.
By embracing your mistakes, you will be able to forgive yourself, and the bonus is that other people might actually like you more! Happy people seem to intuitively know this, embracing mistakes as learning experiences and not judging themselves too harshly.
5) I maintain an optimistic attitude
Happy people tend to respond to negative events in a more optimistic manner than unhappy people. Optimism is a central component of staying happy and healthy, so when in doubt, look on the bright side.
6) I surround myself with supportive people
Even though this life can sometimes feel like an individual journey, we need other people around us in order to feel happy. In fact, recent research has indicated that social relationships are the strongest predictors of happiness, much stronger than income or wealth. For example People with perceived positive social relationships even live longer! So be social, surround yourself with people who make you feel good, and release those who make you feel bad.
7) I always say “No” to stressors
“saying yes to happiness means learning to say no to things and people that stress you out.”
Happy people know that they must say NO to people, ideas, and behaviors that do not serve their highest good. Saying yes to everyone and everything can lead you to feel overwhelmed, increase your stress, and leave you less time and resources to take care of yourself! This is especially true when you agree to do things that do not resonate with you, or allow yourself to be pressured into situations you are uncomfortable with.
The stress that results from feeling overwhelmed can severely dampen one’s happiness and wellbeing. Before you commit to anything or anyone, ask yourself, does this serve my highest good? If the answers is no, then learn to say NO.
8) I forgive, I’ll just act like nothing happened and go on
This one can be challenging for the many of us who have been wronged and/or who have experienced traumas perpetrated by other people in our lives. According to Jimmy Ohm “forgiveness does not mean that what happened was ok, it just means you no longer want to carry the pain.” When we hold on to anger, resentment and fear towards people, they are actually occupying a space inside of us, blocking us from feeling truly happy and fulfilled.
9) I try new things
Happy people are not afraid to push their boundaries and try new things. According to Dr.Rich Walker, that people who engage in a variety of experiences are more likely to retain positive emotions than people who have fewer experiences. Yes, Sure it might seem scary at first, but what’s the worst that could happen? By going beyond your comfort zone, you might actually surprise yourself and exceed your own expectations for what you are capable of accomplishing. And hey if it doesn’t go as planned, at least you tried and you have learned new things.
In life, dwelling in the past hinders you in becoming successful. So go on! Life fucks all of us and be a bitch whom this life can’t easily turned down.